Single and not loving it. That was me. I have been single for parts of each decade of my life but somehow, in my forties, I couldn’t stand it and, even weirder to me, I was super-surprised to find myself here. I mean, how did I go from being married to single and dating again? Practically overnight, no less? Here are some of the ways we can begin to come to terms with being alone again, and actually love who this person is, this woman we might not have seen in a very long time..and boy is she glad to see us.