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#36 Oh the self-loathing!

Listen to episode 36 here. Did you ever get into a fight and only afterwards have all the right things to say? Have you ever “failed” a diet or returned to a lover you know is just bad news? Any habits you want to kick but you kinda got in the way of yourself? No? Marry me. But if yes, this episode is for you! In this part of Bitch, breathe! you’ll find assembled some of the tried-and-true tools I discovered along the way to stop myself from self-loathing and negative self-talk some of us experience when we just couldn’t do better.

The author I mention is Alain de Botton: The School of Life and the scientist is Kristin Neff on self-compassion.

© Ricardia Bramley | Bitch, breathe!

#35 Infidelity

Listen to episode 36 here. Infidelity, betrayal, cheating has been around as long as relationships have and yet, when it happens, we simply can’t believe it. In this episode of Bitch, breathe! we figure out together how to understand what has happened, why infidelity isn’t always the worst thing that could happen to us and what to do after we’ve made the discovery of our partners’ betrayal. Seriously scary situation but there is a way forward and a life after one of the worst disappointments we might ever have to face. Join me for this new, brutally honest episode of Bitch, breathe! and let me hear from you, if you, too, have been “through it all”!

© Ricardia Bramley | Bitch, breathe!

#34 The Summer Solstice special

Listen to episode 34 here. Summer, the summer solstice, mid-summer is finally here and with temperatures rising like crazy, it’s in full force on this side of the earth (northern hemisphere). Here are some ways we can celebrate but also take stock of the year thus far. What still needs to be done in 2021 and what do we do when maybe not all our freedoms have returned and certainly not for all of us on the planet? But the summer season is just begging us to celebrate what and who we love and to put ourselves out there in a massive way, especially if we are in places where the pandemic doesn’t have as tight a grip on us as before. To put it the way only Busta Rhymes can: “Light your ass on Fire”! Wishing us all an abundant, inspiring and healing summer season!

© Ricardia Bramley | Bitch, breathe!

#33 The abandonment issue

Listen to episode 33 here. Why can’t breaking up just be sad, or disappointing or unexpected? What’s with the abandonment all of a sudden? How has this 1 person suddenly become the cumulative event of a lifetime, whether we were together for 3 months or 3 years? Why do we feel like we’ve been left to fend for ourselves against an alien and scary world out there? In this episode of Bitch, breathe! we’re looking at some of the more unhealthy ways we deal with relationships and break-ups and where we might want to take back some power for ourselves to become the strong, independent human beings we came here to share.

© Ricardia Bramley | Bitch, breathe!

#32 Post-lockdown anxiety

Listen to episode 32 here. The Sun is out, the sky is blue, the bars are open and so are…not you? With the reopening of restaurants, museums and stores in some (though by far not all!) countries around the world, people are facing a post-pandemic world but not necessarily feeling post-pandemically ecstatic about it. For some of us we return to job locations and co-workers we didn’t like, our relationships will change with more people populating our world again, and we might simply feel socially anxious altogether. This episode is about tackling some of those post-lockdown fears and how we can enter the next phase embracing the freedoms that it might hold all the same.

© Ricardia Bramley | Bitch, breathe!

#31 Can we change our dating patterns?

Listne to episode 31 here. Lemme guess, you met a new guy/gal and they seem perfect, everything feels so familiar and happy and, wait, where have I seen this before? Why are they saying that, this reminds me of.., oh, crap, this is exactly like what my ex…and the ex before that and…you get the picture. What can we do when we keep running into the same stumbling blocks (or blokes or blondes) and we’re just so exhausted from the analysis and soul searching we’ve already done. Why does this keep happening to us! “Bitch, breathe!” to the rescue! Here are some tried and true ways to shift our focus, gently and doably, so we can start dating in a more conscious and healthy way, or, if nothing else, make some new mistakes for a change! Enjoy and get oh-so-romantic after this one.

© Ricardia Bramley | Bitch, breathe!

#30 Raising a boy part 2

Listen to episode 30 here. So, in part one we talked about the social aspect of raising our boys. Now we get down and dirty with the political, societal fallout of raising male-identiefied children. We even get into the issue of race; what does it mean to raise a POC or a boy of color? What does that mean, especially, when you turned out very light-skinned and have privilege written all over your face? Difficult questions but defo something we want to talk about, even, no, especially when we make mistakes or made them in the past and we realize there’s so much more to learn.

© Ricardia Bramley | Bitch, breathe!

#29 Raising a boy part 1

Listen to episode 29 here. “He’s so cute and smart and handsome, he made varsity, he has so many friends, he is going places, I just know it!” I have yet to meet a mom who isn’t convinced the sun shines out of her boy’s, um, face. And yes, raising a boy (I don’t have girls, so no idea) is such a delight. But what if we recognize, these aren’t just OUR boys, these are society’s men one day, leaders, fathers, soldiers, friends. Would we still do everything the same way or would we take a closer look at where, maybe, we’re letting them get away with stuff they shouldn’t, or that there sisters maybe don’t? And where, on the other hand, are we not taking care of them in the same emphatic way we would girls perhaps? Join me for this first of two episodes and lemme know what you think (about your boys)!

© Ricardia Bramley | Bitch, breathe!

#28 Regrets

Listen to episode 28 here. Regrets. Had a few? Then again too few to mention? As life progresses and the pandemic continues, it’s easy to start looking backward when forward seems uncertain, daunting even. What can we do in hindsight when we realize, “dammit, I shoulda, woulda, coulda done that differently!” Is there a way to bend current realities and get some of the regretful stuff back? To catch up on all those things we have FOMO about, to even get what we didn’t get before? I believe so. Tune in to find out more about dreadful regrets and helpful ways outta there.

© Ricardia Bramley | Bitch, breathe!

#27 Pandemic workaholic

Listen to episode 27 here. It’s been a while my friends-I’m so sorry for my absence! But the title of the episode will maybe tell you why. After all, this pandemic allows us 3 activities: buy food, have sex (lucky you) and work-like a maniac. After almost 1,5 years of this shit, I suddenly realized I had completey stuck my head in the sand and had started to work longer and longer hours all these months. More deadlines, more performance pressure,”at least this part of life is under my control!”, I thought. But what if work isn’t actually working for you? What if it has become your number 1 escape plan? Ok, number 2 if we count Netflix. In this episode we talk about how working during the pandemic is making us speed up so much we lose sight of what does work, and here’s a hint: it ain’t your job. Welcome back, bitches.

© Ricardia Bramley | Bitch, breathe!